Dating Server
Age-gated intro channels, verified photo verification, voice meetup rooms, and a moderation-first structure for safety.
A dating Discord lives or dies on safety. Without a verification gate and a real moderation layer, you get a flood of throwaway accounts, fake photos, and DMs from people who joined to harvest the member list. This template treats verification as the front door — age check, photo verification (held to a private mod channel, not posted publicly), and a brief intro write-up before anyone gets the @member role. Once inside, the structure is intro-driven: people post about themselves, others react and DM. Voice rooms are for organized meetups rather than 24/7 hangouts.
Channel structure
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rules - #
age-verification— Bot DM flow — never post IDs in public - #
photo-verification— Private mod review only
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introductions— Reactions only, no replies - #
socials— @verified-only
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general - #
dating-stories - #
advice - #
memes
- 🔊
Mixer Night— Scheduled events only - 🔊
Lounge - 🔊
AFK
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staff-chat - #
reports— Member reports of bad actors - #
mod-log
Role structure
@owner@mod@verified— Passed age + photo verification@unverified— No chat access until verifiedRules starter
- No unverified DMs. If they DM before verifying, report.
- No screenshots of conversations to other channels.
- Respect a "no thanks". One nudge max.
- No socials in main intro — use #socials only.
- Catfishing = permanent ban + photo on our public banned list.
When to use this template
Use this template if your server is explicitly for singles, dating, or friendship-to-dating. If it's a general community that happens to be mostly singles, use the Community template — the verification overhead isn't worth it. If it's an adult/NSFW dating server, you need a fundamentally different setup with stricter age verification (not this template). For local meetup groups around dating, this works but adds a #city-{your-city} channel structure.
Common mistakes when setting this up
The biggest one: making verification optional. Once you let unverified users post in chat, the server is already lost — the verified members feel less safe and leave. Verification is the gate, not a perk. Other mistake: keeping intro channels open to comments. Replies on someone's intro feel like a public dating profile rating; let people react with emojis only, then DM. And never let a member post their socials in the main intro — that's a magnet for catfishing redirects. Lock socials to a separate channel that only @verified can post in.
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